Love, Like Charity, Begins at Home by Barbara Brennan
The problem is we believe that we don’t have love or don’t have the right kind of love and are incapable of loving. Thus we interfere with the creative process of love that flows through us. We just don’t know we are doing it. We either divert it in some way or stop its flow completely. Once we understand and are willing to try living by this fact, we can take the next step to achieve self-love.
That step is the deep work on early childhood wounding. Going into the wound and experiencing it not only releases the pain, but also frees your original creative intention and energy: the creative energy of love then enters your body and helps you redirect your life in the ways you wish to live it. In doing this you automatically release self-love.
Another requirement is a conscious effort to replace your habit of self-rejection with a positive acceptance. You can start by spending 15 minutes each morning and evening practicing feeling your love for something that is easy – a pet, a child – and then expanding that love to include yourself. Or just do it all day long whenever you think of it. Notice when you are mean to yourself. Replace it with kindness. Tell that inner negative voice that what it just said is not true about you. (It usually isn’t!) See, feel and know yourself as full of love.
Appreciating ourselves in all the glory of who we truly are is a long road, but these exercises can help you create a new beginning in a life full of new beginnings.